[Artemisia] Protecting our kids - Other positive steps

[Mike]

I wanted to start by saying that I like the direction this conversation has
started to go and I thank all who've contributed to changing its course. 

 

A thought I've had about this is that it would be helpful if we could all
keep a better weather eye out for the safety of each other's children. 

 

Most of us would not hesitate to intervene if we saw a child (of whatever
age) in a physically dangerous situation.  There is, sometimes, a hesitation
to approach a parent or child about something we see or hear that concerns
us if it isn't as clear cut a danger.  

 

If you see someone paying attention to a youngster in a way that concerns
you get involved.  Ask, discretely perhaps, if they are associated in some
legitimate way you are not aware of (is it their older Sibling? Aunt or
uncle? Longtime family friend? Campmate?) If you are still concerned find
and talk to the parents or someone you know who IS associated with the
youngster in a legitimate way.  

 

If you are still not reassured you might even query the person whose
behavior worries you. (I believe in Guy this translates as "Dude. Not
cool!")  Or ask someone in a Position of Authority to keep an eye on things.


 

Chances are you're seeing a simple lack of social skills. (Not in the SCA!
Nooo.....) But you may bring something to a parent's attention that enables
them to save their child a lot of heartache.  

 

Notice to My Fellow Parents:  Your part of this deal is to take the concerns
of well meaning people with good grace and appreciation. They are showing
concern for Your Child. So say "Thank you, I will look into it." Say it
sincerely and then follow up on it. They may just have alerted you to
something your tween or teen may not have chosen to share with you.
(Because I certainly told my parents EVERYTHING when I was that age...) and
given you the chance to head off disaster.

 

Will this prevent all bad things from happening – No.  Will it be better
than the current Somebody Else’s Problem approach that seems to prevail – in
my opinion, Yes.   

 

Lady Mauda McClain

Purpure Pursuivant Chartae

Barony of Arn Hold